It's not till sex has died out between a man and a woman that they can really love. And now I mean affection. Now I mean to be fond of (as one is fond of oneself)--to hope, to be disappointed, to live inside the other heart. When I look back on the pain of sex, the love like a wild fox so ready to bite, the antagonism that sits like a twin beside love, and contrast it with affection, so deeply unrepeatable, of two people who have lived a life together (and of whom one must die) it's the affection I find richer. It's that I would have again. Not all those doubtful rainbow colours. E. Bagnold
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Too true. Sex doesnt mean love. And I've learnt this the hard way. But now I'm ALL good. :)
Honestly, I'd rather not have to choose between the two... but having been given the premise, I'd choose affection over sexual tension. I'd also choose a block of cheese over a slice of cheesecake... maybe there's a parallel there. Maybe I'm just hungry.
I'm not sureif love and sex are mutually exclusive. I'd like to think we could have both at the same time, but maybe not. I'm hungry too. Lunchtime.
i think that affection should be present all of the time...and i think that a couple who doesn't have sex anymore is going to break up. men like sex, and if they are not getting it at home, eventually they will get it elsewhere.
i am of the same mindset as a guy...i love action. but i would rather make love to someone i care for or are in love with, than fuck some drunk sweaty guy i met at the bar that night. (as a rule, i refuse to have sex with anyone i haven't known for more than 3 months...).
so i guess i only partially agree with this statement. affection is important, and if it's really not there, you are just really fuck-buddies...
but surely a relationship without sex is just a friendship? I think once you don't want to do naughty things to someone anymore it's time to move on...
I think this quote is by a really old person, who has lived a lifetime with someone and the sex is either not very frequent or has stopped. And they are saying that it is only at that point that you truly love because you aren't thinking about yourself and your needs and playing games of attraction. I think! :)
I actually agree with this quote a lot, and I'm only 25. I think there's a lot to be said when sex isn't the most important thing in a relationship, or even a miniscule part. Sex is such a driving force today that it's hard to know whether someone is in it for you or for sex. It complicates even the simplest relationships. I would much rather go back to the virginal days when sex was taken out of the equation...situations and life were so much simpler then.
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